Self-esteem...

[ngocie]

HongMi, I guess it comes down to perspective.

Think of the good things that you have accomplished. In regards to the things that you wished you accomplished, how big a deal is it ? If it means that much, what can you do to get to that goal ?

Myself, I went to a selective high school. A majority of my friends have ended up with high paying careers - doctors, lawyers, accountants, etc. I envy the fact that they can travel the world at a drop of a hat. They envy my happy husband and kids. It's a case of the grass being greener. I think about the long hours that most of them work and the hugs and kisses I get from my family and I wouldn't change it for the world.

[booboo]

one way to boost your self esteem is to live your life your way.

when you compare your life with your mates and feel shits cos they have more money etc then you just like a rat in a race.

i don't envy no one cos i don't compare my life with no one

cheer up

[Xamboo]

Lily use to say to me. I'm sad.

I say: what do you want me to do about it?

true story.

Dude I said...:I think I'm depressed. But you got what you said right.

Some people are equipped to help others or at least are more sensitive to others feelings. Nance is not one of those people. I've learned to go to other ppl if I want them to help me process my feelings. I go to Nance to bitch and talk smack.

sad, depressed. getting there. but yeah i'm not one to go to for sympathy. I can prolly understand but i cannot express myself.

Although i'm not as harsh as the h0e, I do agree with him. Life goes on whether you're sad or happy. I just think that you yourself hold the answer on how to get rid of your negative thoughts. No matter how many suggestions ppl give you, you won't be able to do any of it if you don't want to. For the most part, i'm with fat on thinking about the positives in my life.

Ex: god my life sucks, but i have my family
i wish i was a manager making 100k a year, i don't but at least i have a job.
I hate my family. Thank god for Pickles.

yes, i agree, it's ultimately how you handle it, no one can do it for you. but people need the encouragement if they're feeling down. someone confirming your life sucks makes you really question what there is worth living for.

if it has to come to the point where someone confirming your life sucks and you believe it then this person has problems beyond your control. nuff said.

[pinkie]

When you have them negative thoughts haunting you.......... what do you do? In fact, do you fobs ever feel inadequate............ when your live seem normal in the eyes of others, but to you, you feel little of yourself?

I am very much busy during the week days but on the weekend, I lost much sleep because of it... the negativities haunt me and I feel forever enslaved to them.

know your strength and limitations and be realistic about them. Learn to accept. Also, make yourself busy during the weekend if those negative thoughts come.

[Mousey]

depression party of one right here
still dealing with it as best i can...some days are better than others.
"Nothing is ever as bad as it seems." Sometimes people just want someone to listen, and not do anything, but just to listen...or APPEAR to be listening. In all honesty Hong Mi, "No one can help you but yourself."

Yellow, go fuk yourself telling a depressed person to go kill her/himself, wth is wrong with you? I was told that once and almost did....someone physically stopped me.

xamboo, i'd prob lol from your response then just walk away, and know i can't talk to you about anything serious.

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yellowhoe just doesnt have the time or sympathy for such stupidity in his mind... he say it like it is... I think he wouldn't feel one bit bad at all if you were in that situation and he told you that and something hapened... it's just him.. he straight up like that and no pity for the weak...

[Cum A. Lot (Dai Ca Vang)]

Yellow, go fuk yourself

fucking oneself aint all dat bad....try it sometime lesbo...disease free unless ur finger got the cooties...

anyway...are joo fucking dumb or just plain stoopid??? do joo not knoe how to read and comprehend???? if joo read correctly....u'd see...wat i said ain't anything different from wat 90% of peep who just posted on here....urself included...

telling a depressed person to go kill her/himself, wth is wrong with you? I was told that once and almost did....someone physically stopped me.

if ur mind ish dat weak....den maybe joo should...looking back...do joo see how stoopid joo were???? obviously joo do since ur alive and well and posting...

[Mousey]

go kill urself...

...so just kill urself...problem solved...

u said those words did u not?

fucking oneself aint all dat bad....try it sometime lesbo...disease free unless ur finger got the cooties...

eww

anyway...are joo fucking dumb or just plain stoopid??? do joo not knoe how to read and comprehend????

i do have a reading comprehension problem...it's been stated SEVERAL times in fobclub and while i was in school....

if ur mind ish dat weak....den maybe joo should...looking back...do joo see how stoopid joo were???? obviously joo do since ur alive and well and posting...

i am alive...but i wouldn't call myself well.

[Cum A. Lot (Dai Ca Vang)]

well since u're so brittle...i won't tell joo to go kill urself...but rather ram ur head thru the damn wall...dun worry it won't kill joo...prob knock some sense into ya...if joo get lucky and miss the stud...ur head would just go str8 thru the sheetrock...if joo ish unlucky and hit a 2 by 4...then maybe it was meant to be...blame it on god and not me...god hate faggots....

[tears143]

Just ignore him mousey not worth the hassle nor worth writing. He is what he is. Until something really happen, he probably will not change.

[Mousey]

i just hope his kids don't go up to him one day and say something up these lines...

[Cum A. Lot (Dai Ca Vang)]

Just ignore him mousey not worth the hassle nor worth writing. He is what he is. Until something really happen, he probably will not change.

wat the heo do joo mean until something happen??? u dumb ignant fawk...ive been thru life/death situation...myself and close ones...u dumb fawks always wanna hear how rosey fucking life is...well it ain't...and if u gonna sit there and feel sorry for urself...then just end it already...i'm not one to beg someone to live...nor am i one to just outta the blue tell someone to die...can't cope with shiet...then end it...

as far as my kids...i have my ways of teaching them...they should not be weak and brittle...if they are...they better know how to cope with it...cuz they will get their feelings hurt even more by me...

now u dumb fucks are annoying me...all u fags can go fucking die then...shietheads...

[tears143]

AND?
So you been through life/death situation? Your point is? Did I said I want to hear how nice life is? Did I say anything about my life was sorry? Am I asking you to beg someone to live on?

Wait... wasted my time...

[Cum A. Lot (Dai Ca Vang)]

u fucking dipshiet...if u feel its a waste of time then dun post...i ain't gonna even bother breaking down wat joo said and own ur faggot ass...so move along like a lil bitch like u always do...

[HongMi]

Update: During my menstrual cycle, I feel like crap again. :0 But after I cry, I feel better.

But seriously, when I created this thread, I did feel very very down............ BUT BUT BUT....... Dai Ca Vang is right, noone can magically make you feel better about yourself. If you cannot find the solution to your insecurities, others' words of support serves only as a bandage... and bandages expire, you either be brave and remove that damn bandage and watch your wound heals or change that damn bandage and shield your wounds from the harsh wind........